Jordan Edmond
Okay, so it’s that time of the month, you’re hot, and your boyfriend is irritating the crap out of you. Even though he knows you hate it, he just won’t stop cracking his knuckles! And then you snap.
Instantly, insults are thrown and suddenly it seems that you’re on an episode of Jerry Springer.
Now, stop and press rewind. It’s time to draw the line. Every relationship has its ups and downs and every couple fights. But, a major deciding factor between relationships that last and those that crumble is how they argue. Yes, there is a right way to argue.
First off, getting your point across doesn’t require you to throw insults across the room. If you feel like you can’t express yourself without swearing, take yourself out of the situation. Before you even get into the conversation take some time to get yourself together. This time might be a few minutes but, if you know you could be casted as a member of the Bad Girls Club please take as long as you need. Maybe even wait until the next day.
While calming yourself down you also need to organize your thoughts. Why are you so mad? And, why is this significant other making you so angry? Be prepared to tell them and explain why. They can’t read your mind. Even more importantly take a look at yourself, are you over reacting? Is there something that you could do to also help to diffuse the situation? If you feel you have some fault take ownership and voice your acknowledgement.
Finally, and most importantly, after the air is cleared don’t bring it back up. Simply drop it and start fresh. This means that if you’re arguing about your boyfriend always being late you don’t add sly remarks about him texting his ex 3 months ago. No relationship can stay strong if you can’t forgive and forget.
